Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Why some people won’t accept responsibilities?

In most of the cases, responsibilities were something that a person must be able to undertake or must be able to handle it with credibility and reliability. Responsibility is indeed a big and challenging task to do. However, when someone was appointed for that responsibilities, it means that the person was trusted to do the job and he or she should do it exactly what was needed in order to achieve trust and recognition from the superior. Not many people were given responsibilities to do the task. There are some positive and negative sides of taking responsibilities. But in life, we should never be pessimistic. We should be optimistic by thinking positively in getting the chances of recognition and trust. That is how life should be. Responsibilities are something that people should compete with others for career enhancement and for the better future. All working people should accept responsibilities that were given to them and not to avoid it.

However, there are few reasons why people won’t accept responsibility.

· Fear of failure

Not all people are daring enough to take failure as their step to move forward for the success. They are not aware for their opportunities to improve their abilities through the mistakes that they made accidentally. That is why some people would not accept responsibilities that was given to them because they afraid unable to achieve what was being expected by the superior. However, they should believe that they can do it and make the impossible become possible with good effort and commitment to achieve it. Moreover, they should believe with their abilities. No one would know the outcomes that they might face. It’s up to us to start believing that we can do it and take the responsibility.

· Fear of consequences of the mistakes that they make

Some people are afraid with the consequences that they will face when they are unable to achieve what the superior had given them. Fear for the mistakes that they made is very normal to most of the people especially when it is regarding with competency in work. They afraid that it will affect their job position, insecure job, lack of trust from the superior and even worst being fired by the superior.

· Afraid of rejection of others

Other than that, some people refuse responsibilities because they are afraid of rejection of others. When they made mistakes, they afraid that other colleagues and the superior will reject them for their failure of taking responsibilities. The others might look down upon them and they will not put their trust on him or her again. However, nobody’s perfect in this world. Everybody does make mistakes but they can learn from their mistakes. This can improve more of their future performance.

· Refuse of added responsibilities if they see it simply as meaningless extra works

Some people refuse responsibilities because they don’t want to do meaningless extra work when they see it brings them nothing but another burden to carry on. Usually, they don’t look on positive side of taking responsibility and that is why their job advancement opportunity was lower. Moreover, they are unable to learn something new through taking the new responsibilities.

· Do not want to be given responsibility

Lastly, the reason why people won’t take responsibilities is because they really don’t want to be given responsibility. This is because according to the Theory X and Theory Y, Theory X was the dominant that it covers most of the people in the world. Theory X means that they dislikes works and attempts to avoid it, has no ambition, want no responsibility, are self-centered, resist change and they would rather follow than be the leader. In contrast of this theory X people, are those who take work as something that is worthy enough, they would seek for responsibilities, are committed to the organizational goals and self dedicated to meet their work objectives.

DON’T AVOID RESPONSIBILITIES, IT IS THE CHANCES FOR YOU TO IMPROVE AND BE BETTER IN FUTURE” – Emma Gabrie (18 Feb 2011)

I Regret and It Was Foolish


What am I thinking?

Why did I suddenly want to follow him?

I have no idea for my own decision

It was foolish and I wish I can turn back the time

I wish I can forget all about it

I wish I never say yes to him at the first place

But now I regret

And I was guilty about his feeling for me

For I’m not ready to fall in love at the moment

The shadow of my past hunting me now

Making me look foolish and put me in the wrong position

What’s wrong with me?

Who should I blame for this?

Maybe I should blame myself for not being aware of it

It is my fault for not thinking it wisely?

But everything had happened and cannot be undo

How am I supposed to forget about it?

I just hope I am able to take it for it had happened

And I just hope it won’t happen again

Let this be my guide to think wisely and be mature

And live my life for the better tomorrow

Things that had happen was left as how it was

Nothing else that I can do to undo it

I have to learn to accept it as my fate

I just hope I’m not pushing myself too hard

Because I believe it happen for a reason

That is to make me be more careful in future

One thing for sure it do have change me a little bit

I have to ignore him for good than learning to hate him

And I hope he understand the reason I do this

It’s really hard to force myself to like him

It makes me feel uncomfortable to see him again

Everything that I faced and will face

I leave it in the hand of God

Let God decide what’s best for me and my future

I put my trust to the Lord from up above

For He who sees my sorrow and happiness down below

May His grace be upon me always


Truly by:

Emma Gabrie

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(16・02・2011)

Sunday, February 6, 2011

Love is Ouch - Poem



Love is ouch
That is when you realize the pain that it caused
You can't breath for a moment
You can feel your heart stop beating
All that in your mind was the memories
The painful memories
That haunt you during the day and night
You feel insecure with your own feelings
When you know that nothing can make it better again
All that you been dreaming on turns dark and meaningless
All that you hope was left behind
It's hard to move on
It's hard to turn it back again
Everything will not be the same again
The hope and dream that you had before
Will become your bad nightmares
Sometimes you wish for a miracles
Sometimes you wish you haven't felt for it before
But soon you will realize
That being broken heart teach you to be careful
It makes you to be more wise when choosing someone
Love is really ouch
But you will never know more unless you know the meaning of heart break
It gives you strength
It guide you to chose someone
That is when you know it is true



Truly by me:
Emma Gabrie - 06/02/11